Let's talk about depression.
Depression can be hard, not just because of what you feel and go through, but because most people don't understand very often.
Depression is not always an emo girl or guy sitting at the back of the class, wearing all black and writing dark poems about death. Depression can be anything- the happy girl who wears bright dresses and the popular guy who just seems to have it right.
I don't want this to seem extremely cliche- sometimes, all you have to do is ask. A simple 'Are you alright?' may mean more to someone going through depression than you can ever imagine.
Let me tell you a little bit about when I was depressed.
I'd feel terrible about myself, my body and my life.
Nothing could make me feel any better or happier.
There were days when I'd skip school and stay at home- some weeks, more often than the others. Those days, I'd feel even worse than how I felt at most other times. I'd curl up in a ball on the floor and cry for hours- not knowing why.
Other days, when I did go to school, I was such a downer. I'd sit at my desk, drawing and writing and scribbling, not caring what was going on around me. I'd feel low- like down-in-the-dumps low all the time. And it was starting to get irritating.
And then, I hit an entirely new low- lower than the lowest I'd ever been. I started to snap at people too easily, and do thing and behave in a way I usually never did. I started to feel like life is worthless-like I am worthless.
I felt like I let people down too often and too easily.
I tried everything- I was seeing a therapist and whatnot, I tried talking to my mother about it. (PS.: Major thanks to my parents for helping me get through this)
I had one or two close calls, when I almost committed suicide. I don't know what held me back- but whatever it was, I'm glad it did.
I started to try. I didn't feel any better for a long time, but I tried talking about it with my friends and my father. That's when I finally started to feel a little better.
Because everyone began accepting me the way I am- moreover, I began accepting myself the way I am.
I began thinking of what I want more than what others expect.
The sky didn't seem so dull anymore. Life was better.
And I'm not saying I don't feel like shit anymore- I still have days when I feel like throwing myself off the roof. But I've learnt to get through it.
\When that happens, I listen to my music and take hour-long walks in my building at night- and it's suddenly not all that bad.
What you have to do when you're depressed is, believe. Believe that you can get through it.
Believe that someone will understand you. If you doubt that even for a moment, think again. There always will be someone who is ready to help you- you only have to try.
Believe that there is something for you out there. Find what it is. Try new things. Excite yourself and distract yourself as much as you can.
Believe that it is all about you. Sure, that sounds narcissistic. But it is your life. Learn to put yourself before everyone else, because no one can possibly love yourself more than you.
And I'm not saying it's easy- it is not. it may take months for you to feel better but try not to give up.
And I'm not saying it'll go away forever either- it won't. You just have to take it one step at a time.
Depression can be hard, not just because of what you feel and go through, but because most people don't understand very often.
Depression is not always an emo girl or guy sitting at the back of the class, wearing all black and writing dark poems about death. Depression can be anything- the happy girl who wears bright dresses and the popular guy who just seems to have it right.
I don't want this to seem extremely cliche- sometimes, all you have to do is ask. A simple 'Are you alright?' may mean more to someone going through depression than you can ever imagine.
Let me tell you a little bit about when I was depressed.
I'd feel terrible about myself, my body and my life.
Nothing could make me feel any better or happier.
There were days when I'd skip school and stay at home- some weeks, more often than the others. Those days, I'd feel even worse than how I felt at most other times. I'd curl up in a ball on the floor and cry for hours- not knowing why.
Other days, when I did go to school, I was such a downer. I'd sit at my desk, drawing and writing and scribbling, not caring what was going on around me. I'd feel low- like down-in-the-dumps low all the time. And it was starting to get irritating.
And then, I hit an entirely new low- lower than the lowest I'd ever been. I started to snap at people too easily, and do thing and behave in a way I usually never did. I started to feel like life is worthless-like I am worthless.
I felt like I let people down too often and too easily.
I tried everything- I was seeing a therapist and whatnot, I tried talking to my mother about it. (PS.: Major thanks to my parents for helping me get through this)
I had one or two close calls, when I almost committed suicide. I don't know what held me back- but whatever it was, I'm glad it did.
I started to try. I didn't feel any better for a long time, but I tried talking about it with my friends and my father. That's when I finally started to feel a little better.
Because everyone began accepting me the way I am- moreover, I began accepting myself the way I am.
I began thinking of what I want more than what others expect.
The sky didn't seem so dull anymore. Life was better.
And I'm not saying I don't feel like shit anymore- I still have days when I feel like throwing myself off the roof. But I've learnt to get through it.
\When that happens, I listen to my music and take hour-long walks in my building at night- and it's suddenly not all that bad.
What you have to do when you're depressed is, believe. Believe that you can get through it.
Believe that someone will understand you. If you doubt that even for a moment, think again. There always will be someone who is ready to help you- you only have to try.
Believe that there is something for you out there. Find what it is. Try new things. Excite yourself and distract yourself as much as you can.
Believe that it is all about you. Sure, that sounds narcissistic. But it is your life. Learn to put yourself before everyone else, because no one can possibly love yourself more than you.
And I'm not saying it's easy- it is not. it may take months for you to feel better but try not to give up.
And I'm not saying it'll go away forever either- it won't. You just have to take it one step at a time.
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